Home & Mental Health

Last week was a rough week.

For whatever reason, it seemed like everything was going wrong. I missed my bus in the morning three times. My personal life was dangling on a string, and I honestly believe the only thing that was getting me through was my pumpkin spice latte (embracing my inner white girl).

Thursday morning, I woke up and worked from home expecting to be filled with excitement about going to Texas–but I didn’t feel it. I was too exhausted to even be happy to go home. I attempted to make a pancake and nearly burned my kitchen down. I shrunk a brand new dress in the laundry. I burnt through my favorite candle. I needed out.

As I walked from baggage claim to the passenger pick-up area, I felt instant relief when I saw my parents’ car. I sat in the front seat with my mom and chatted about life lately and updated her on all things in the big city. I was spent, and needless to say–I slept hard that night.

Being home was a great trip, and not in the usual way. I didn’t go out much, or even get to see most of my friends. I stayed home and got to spend a lot of time with my mom and sisters. I got some retail therapy in. I drove my car for the last time before we sell it. I realized how much I have changed as a person since two years ago when I ventured off to BYU-Idaho. I’m not the same. I can’t relate to most of my friends there anymore. I didn’t belong with them. But with my family…I was home.
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Monday was my last day, and it was also Labor Day. We had my grandparents over and cooked hamburgers on the grill and lounged around, and I couldn’t help but cry all day. I remembered what the last week in Chicago felt like and how difficult everything was. I thought it would be the same when I got back.

I was so wrong. Tuesday morning, I woke up ready to go back to work. I was ready to take the CTA and get back into the gym and stick to my routine. I was excited to start living a little and putting myself out there to try and make friends in a new city–on my own. On Wednesday, I got in a taxi and looked at the city as a tourist again and remembered why I came here in the first place.

This weekend, I made no plans in an effort to prepare for traveling for work. I spent my Saturday morning working out with my trainer, came home, and cleaned. Had a phone call with an old friend. Took a nap. Went for a walk. The weather was perfect–sunny and 75. The sun peaked just across the skyline, tourists were nicer than normal, I didn’t hit a red light…

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I felt mentally healthy for the first time in a long time. It’s crazy how going home for just a few days can reset you and help you to remember who you are, who you aren’t, who’s there for you, and where you want to go–even if it’s just temporary. A two hour flight can change anything.

A Girl’s Guide to Working in PR

In a world that has skewed the true definition of public relations, it’s important for women in the industry to be strong leaders and step it up to prove that the world of PR is not just a dying field.

The media has slowly convinced our culture that public relations is getting Kim Kardashian’s latest selfie published, encompassing Samantha from Sex and the City and spinning companies’ crises to help them to ‘look better’.

As a result, here are my PR girl tips:

1. Know what Public Relations is to you.  When I first changed my college emphasis to public relations, my family back home would ask me about the industry. My response was usually a ramble that sounded something like, “Um…it’s like marketing? But like, advertising? But not like paid advertising. And not sales.” Learn the definition. You’re influencing public opinion ethically.

2. Stay Current. PRDaily and the Skimm are your new best friends. Read the news. Watch the news. Keep up on events in your specific industry whether it be fashion, healthcare or electrical engineering. You should be able to hop in on any conversation with insight on the latest with what’s happening.

3. Be a Strong Woman. Feminism is a rising topic right now, and for good reason. No, you do not have to be the girl that constantly retweets #YesAllWomen tweets, but be the girl that is respected around the office and known for getting things done. Be the girl that knows her plan and reaches her goals consistently. Stay organized, and most importantly–stay positive.

4. Go After the Job You Want Without Limits. If you want to pack up and move halfway across the country (and you aren’t tied down), do it. Nothing should stop you from living the exact life you want. It may take time, but by making measurable goals regularly and giving 110% effort, you can’t be held back. Didn’t get the job? Find another, work hard, and reapply. Don’t give up.

5. Pick a Few Specialties. Our parents’ generation was told to pick one thing and go for it. In our industry and generation, things are a little different. Pick a few. If you can be great at press releases and graphic design, do it. Web analytics and paid search and pitches? Go for it. Having multiple niches can only create more opportunities for yourself.

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If you’re a college student, get involved as much as you can, and stick close with your professors. They are your own personal career manager while you’re in college, and often have connections to help further your career immediately out of college. Join PRSSA and run for the executive board and national committees. Do six internships. The more you do in college, the more likely you are to have things to do immediately AFTER college.

And by the way, if Kim Kardashian wants me to help her get her latest selfie viral, I’ll make it happen.

Xo,
Molly

Why Boys Can Stop Complaining About the ‘Friendzone’

Okay, I have a confession.

The Bachelorette is my #1 guilty pleasure. I watch it, I live tweet it, I love it.

So this season, when Chris the farmer from Iowa packed his bags and went home heartbroken, I felt for him. Really, I did. But I also felt for Andi.

If you aren’t a Bachelorette watcher, let me summarize: Chris, a cute, all-American farmer boy next door, came on the show as an underdog and quickly become one of viewers’ favorites. Two weeks ago, just before hometown dates, Andi sent him packing, letting him know that he had done everything right, it wasn’t his fault, and he was just a friend. Andi looked more heartbroken than he did. You could tell that she really wanted to like him.

Girl viewers obsessed over him. Guy viewers felt for him. All because of this one term: the Friendzone.

The first thing I want to address here is that most girls do not Friendzone guys because they are too nice, or because they’re too busy chasing assholes. Really, I mean that. Most girls genuinely do want a nice guy to settle down with. This isn’t high school anymore.

Secondly, let’s talk about the double standard here. I was on Tumblr earlier and saw the following post:

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Talk about contradictory. The same goes with the Friendzone.

If a guy tells a girl he isn’t interested in her, do you see girls complaining about getting Friendzoned? No. But oh, if a girl doesn’t like a guy–it’s an entirely different story. How DARE she? I mean, obviously she’s too busy chasing douchebags to realize what she has right in front of her, right?

No. Maybe she doesn’t find you physically attractive. Maybe she wants someone more serious. Maybe she wants someone less serious. Maybe she wants someone in a different career field than you. Maybe she wants a doctor who’s blonde, 6’3, drives a BMW and doesn’t talk. To be frank here, it really doesn’t matter–she can make her decision just as a guy can, but if she were a guy, no one would blink an eye.

Ironically, in my personal experience, I’ve found myself having feelings for three of my best guy friends in the past. This isn’t a one-sided thing.

Here’s my advice to those of you who have been Friendzoned: move on, or wait around and see if eventually she changes her mind.

I’m not saying that this is in every case. Yes, there are girls who only chase the ‘bad boys’. Yes, there are girls who are totally shallow about their decisions. But, if those are the girls you’re in this situation with–why do you want them anyway?

In the end, everyone finds who they’re supposed to be with. Don’t waste your time being bitter and miserable. On to the next one.

Xo,
Molly

Onward & Upward

In November of my second last to semester of college, I was offered a full time position at a marketing agency and immediately accepted. As a result, the second half of that semester, I had other things on my mind. I had senioritis, to say the least.

As a result, over Christmas break, grades were posted and I saw that I had received a B in a class I was sure I’d gotten an A in. I emailed my professor and found out that I had completely spaced it and had forgotten to take the multiple choice portion of my final exam in the testing center.

I panicked. How could I have forgotten something like that? That wasn’t like me. I took the essay portion in class–had I really thought that was all I needed to do? I was so upset with myself and shed some tears in the Walmart parking lot with my mom when I found out. I was really hoping for a 4.0 that semester.

My professor signed his email with this:

“Onward and upward, Molly.”

In that moment, I knew he was right. It was over with. I had made the mistake, still gotten a decent grade in the class, and I needed to move on…and so I did.

Since then, I’ve realized that this has been a huge lesson to me in my life. I am so sensitive. A people-pleaser. A perfectionist. Letting things go has never been my strongest attribute.

When things get complicated or stressful, we have to remember that in the grand scheme of things, the moment is probably small and insignificant. Looking back at that now, it didn’t affect my college experience. My GPA didn’t change. I still got my diploma.

In a moment where you don’t feel like things are going as well as they should be, whether that be a relationship, a career, a location…anything. Remember that it is temporary, and that you have some really happy times ahead of you. We all do.

“There are far, far better things ahead than those we leave behind.” -C.S. Lewis

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My Go-to Summer Look!

As much as I wish this could be in a video version, my new apartment has the worst lighting and that plus the quality of a webcam video would be too much for my communication background to bear!

Today I’m excited to share with you my go-to summer look!

maymakeupRemember how in January/February, I was complaining how it wasn’t the right season for my Naked 3 Palette? Well, it finally is and I am in LOVE. maymakeup4

 

I used these colors after prepping my eyes with Urban Decay’s Priming Potion:

maymakeup5Shade 1) Base. Use whatever brush you’d like to swipe this all the way from under your eyebrows down to your lash line.
Shade 2) Lid. Use a tight-bristled shadow brush and place this shadow from in your crease (or just above it, if you have smaller eyes) down to your lash line.
Shade 3) Crease/Lash Line. With a shading brush, create a horizontal V or backwards C into your crease and along your lash line with this shade.
Shade 4) BLEND! This is so important. Grab a fluffy eye shadow/blending brush and blend until all of the lines are gone. A windshield-wiping motion along the crease should do the trick!
Shade 5) Save this for after your eyeliner!

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Let’s talk eyeliner! I have been pairing these two, the Nars waterproof liner and the Kat Von D tattoo liner.

First, I apply the Nars waterproof liner as a tightline to my upper lashes. I’ll make a video for this ASAP, but basically you want this under your lash line on top. This will make your lashes look fuller without fully lining your eyes with this pencil.

Next, I take the Kat Von D liner, which is a liquid liner that lasts ALL DAY and ALL NIGHT. No joke. This stuff is a lifesaver. For this look, I created a thin line toward my inner eye and as I went out, I made it thicker and created a slight wing on the ends.

On the bottom lash line, I went back with my NARS liner and filled my lash line as I normally do.

Finally, go back with that eyeshadow shade 5 with an angled eyeliner brush and smudge along both your upper and lower lash line! Use very little or you will get black everywhere. If you do, though, grab your favorite eye cream on a q-tip and clean it up, then apply concealer!

Finally, lashes. I have been stingy about buying department store products lately because of my move, so right now I’m obsessed with the Maybelline Mega Plush mascara!
This mascara is a very wet mascara which I love. You can layer it up and build your lashes to be thick and perfect and beautiful. I would say it’s more volumizing than it is lengthening, but for this look that is so smokey, that’s what I wanted! maymakeup3
As a final touch, you can use NARS Albatross highlighter as an under-brow highlight. It’s my personal favorite (;

I love this look because the rose-pink shades can go with EVERYTHING! I am such a navy and black girl wardrobe-wise, so I like that these shades can help me transition from those colors to bright, summer colors as well!

Let me know if you’d like for me to try to make some low quality videos anyways!

What are your favorite summer makeup looks? Do you stick with neutrals or go with brighter colors in the warmer months?

Xo,
Molly

The Beauty Blogger Tag!

I feel like I haven’t posted in forever, and I guess that’s because I haven’t! Texas has been amazing to me, but I am so ready for my move to Chicago on Thursday!

Today’s late-night post is simple:

The Beauty Blogger Tag

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 1. Is your hair naturally curly or straight?
It’s naturally stick straight. It takes a whole lot of hair spray to get my hair to curl. (But the Texas humidity does help!)

2. What is your natural hair color?
Plain dark brown.

3. Do you dye it yourself or go to a salon?
My mom is a hairdresser, so most of my life I’ve been lucky to have her! But I have to switch again once I get moved.

4. How often do you wash your hair?
Every day/every other day. Not as often now that my skin’s dried out more from accutane!

5. Do you wear the same style every day or change it?
I try to get a good mix between big curls and straight hair.

6. Do you do your own mani/pedi or go to a salon?
I do my own manicures, but for pedicures always a salon!

7. How often to you change your nail polish?
As soon as it chips (:

8. Do you polish your toes in the winter, too or just in the summer?
I do both, but I change the color more often in the summer.

9. How long does it take to put on your makeup?
Just makeup, about ten minutes.

10. What do you do first? Face or eyes?
Face. I think I get afraid of being too dramatic with my eyes if I do my eyes first.

11. Do you “collect” makeup or just buy what you need when you need it?
I collect palettes for eyeshadow, but other than that I just buy what I need. I may seem like a collector with foundation sometimes, though, because it is really hard for me to find one that I like!

12. How often do you wear false eyelashes?
Only for big events. My eyelashes are pretty long already!

13. Do you do a full face of makeup every day?
Sometimes I skimp out on a lot of eye makeup, but as far as my foundation, concealer, powder routine–it’s set.

14. Do you wear makeup when you are home alone (or with family)?
Typically, no.

15. Will you leave the house without makeup?
Very rarely.

16. How many high end products do you have?
I typically don’t wear drugstore products.

17. How often do you wash your makeup brushes?
Eeeeeek guilty of not doing this enough.

18. Do you plan your OOTD every night or decide when you are getting dressed?
I will usually pick something in my head the night before, but there are days I forget and go with whatever! I finally realized in the past year or so that it’s just as easy to put on a cute outfit as it is yogas haha!

19. How often do you change your handbag?
Not as often as I should..mostly because I’m picky and really only want Michael Kors. (;

20. What time do you get up & go to sleep?

My Texas schedule makes no sense! But once I start work, it’ll be wake up around 6:00 to go and work out, and then bed by 11:00.

21. How often & when do you workout?
Throughout college I worked out at night, but when I start work it will be mornings for sure!

22. Left-handed or Right-handed?
Right-handed.

23. How tall are you?
5’7

24. Do you speak a foreign language?
Not at all. This needs to happen, because most people think I’m hispanic anyway.

25. How many pets do you have?
Zero..but that needs to change!

26. How often are you on your blog?
Not so often currently, but once I get back in a routine I will be much more consistent

27. Do you read the comments posted blogs?
Generally, no. I always do on Thought Catalog or things like that, they get pretty interesting.

28. Do you keep a list of products to try as you see other posts?
Typically if I hear a product mentioned a few times by several bloggers, I’ll remember to pick it up.
Or, anything Jaclyn Hill says. Ha!

29. How did you come up with your blog name?
It’s pretty self-explanatory haha! But. I do struggle with keeping consistency for my personal brand between this and my Twitter/Instagram handle, ModishMollyXo.

30. What kind of camera do you use for photographs?
I miss my Canon Rebel T2i. I plan on buying a T5i within the next six months or so.

31. How often do you clean your house? (Daily, weekly, other)
To be determined…
4 days (:

32. What is your favorite color?
Is black a color?

33. What is your favorite beauty/fashion magazine?
Allure.

34. Do you swear?
More than I should.

35. What are you doing with the rest of your day?
It’s bedtime. (:

 

 Goodnight, y’all!
Xo